Leyla Aylin Kuntsal
I love working with therapists
(and all kinds of people in helping or healing professions)
You’re therapeutically savvy. Emotionally sophisticated.
Deeply relational.
You’re good at this kind of work.
And chances are, the work you’ve done has changed you.
You’re probably not the same person you were when you started.
And you might also recognize yourself a little here:
Doing more of the relational work in relationships.
Feeling unmet or disappointed by other people’s limitations.
Being more affected than you’d like by what someone else does, feels, understands—or doesn’t.
Wishing others were more empathetic or emotionally intelligent.
And with therapists, coaches and the like, there can be an additional wrinkle:
Some of the very things we’re good at and rewarded for in this field—
even some of what we’ve learned about healing, growth, and healthy relationships—
can subtly reinforce the patterns we’re trying to get freer from.
Attunement → hyper-attunement
Empathy → emotional over-responsibility
Insight → struggle to inhabit our simple selves
Communication → management
Discernment → evaluation
Perceptiveness → relational hyper-vigilance
We can unintentionally recruit our gifts to protect us.
And sometimes we don’t know how much we’re over-carrying, until we no longer have to.
Things can be so much less complicated.
Less to track.
Less to manage.
Less to figure out.
Less riding on what another person does or doesn’t do.
We become freer to just be.
To remain rooted in ourselves—unhooked, and so much more available for ourselves, and real intimacy.
I hear from therapists that it can be hard to find someone who likes doing therapy for therapists.
I’ve always loved working with therapists.
For a decade, I’ve worked individually with therapists and other practitioners—a focus that grew without intention, as more of them spontaneously found their way to me.
While I no longer practice psychotherapy, today I work with therapists worldwide helping them get untangled. I've been there, too.
I know what's possible on the other side.
